Hello Everyone,

Perfectionism is characterized by binary thinking that sees situations and outcomes in stark terms of either complete success or absolute failure.

In the next 2 weeks, we aim to delve deeper into perfectionism by categorizing it into two distinct archetypes.

Procrastination Under the Guise of Perfectionism

The first archetype represents individuals who adopt the label of perfectionism as socially acceptable cover for procrastination and inaction. This variant of perfectionism is closely linked with anxiety and indecisiveness. In this context, perfectionism is not defined by a pursuit of excellence, but as a reason to avoid critique or failure.

But what is the underlying reason that leads to this type of perfectionism?

Insecurity. The fear of perceived rejection by others. We must challenge the definition of insecurity itself, which reveals a thread of questions.

1. Do you notice everything about every person you see daily?

2. Of all the people who have heard of you, what percentage have expressed their judgements about you?

3. Why do you think yourself so important that others would care enough to judge you?

4. If you believe that, are you insecure or self-aggrandizing?

Do you see the contradictions?

Perfectionism is the reason for inaction. Insecurity is the reason for perfectionism, yet there is limited evidence judgements from others exist. In fact, in order to fear the judgements of others, you believe yourself important enough to be judged in the first place.

Conclusion

The perception of judgements from others can vastly affect behaviors. For this archetype of perfectionist, fear of critique or failure leads to paralysis. Conversely, with enough external reward, this perfectionist can be driven to action as well.

What about those who experience deep-seated inadequacy no matter the external validation?

Stay tuned next week to learn about the True Perfectionist.

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Until the next one.

— Alan Akira, MD